Yesterday we received information on Ryleigh and her finding.
I'm not planning on sharing that information here, BUT, I thought that I would post about how sad I am for her birth mother. Knowing you are pregnant, and feeling that life, and hoping for something that isn't meant to be must be so sad. Can you even imagine for a second, thinking that you are getting the greatest gift, but feeling the pressure from your own family, society and Government that if it's not the "right" gift, that you must not keep it......
A friend said to me....imagine what you are giving this little girl. You are not only going to be giving her a wonderful home, and family, you are giving her the choice to have as many children as she wants, you are giving her the choice to keep her own daughter, like her birth mother wasn't able to do.
I think that that statement is one of the most profound things that I have heard about us adopting Ryleigh. Everyone says how lucky she is to be adopted by us, but I think that she is lucky because she will be able to choose who she mothers when she is older.
And of course, we are the luckiest of all to add little Xin Hong Bao into our family....forever!!!!
Tuesday, January 24, 2006
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Sending you a HUGE HUG over the internet waves! Keep smiling, she is almost home! Kim
O.K., I have been thinking about this all evening....I am not sure that my thoughts will completly be written out exactly how I want to express them but I am willing to try...
This is what I think
(for whatever it is worth)
Thankfully,
Ryleigh's Birth Mom had the opportunity to make sure that Ryleigh had the chance to be raised by two loving parents, maybe she knew that God had a plan for Ryleigh and she was the means to give a family a daughter that would be loved and cherished forever.
I would like to believe that somehow she could find comfort in those thoughts. (Although I can only imagine how hard the decision was for her to make~whomever her God is, guided her to make the right decision)
I, for one, am so thankful to her for making that brave decision to give you the daughter you desire so very much. I will think of her often and I cannot wait to meet Ryleigh and to welcome her to her new home.
Your Friend, Kim
wow. I've never thought about that aspect of it. I guess these little girls will have lots of choices their birth mothers didnt have.
I have thought a lot about the sorrow of the birth mother and the blessings of being able to adopt a little girl...but I have never thought of the gift that my daughter will get by having the FREEDOM of choice to have and keep her children!! This thought is profound and has really struck the core of my heart.
Lisa
For me, thinking about our little girl and how we have found our way into eachothers's lives creates such a place of pause that I hardly know how to express it.
I am, of course, profoundly grateful for our daughter's presence in our lives. And yet, realize at the same time that there is at least one other person out there... missing from the family picture...
There were so many different ways the decision could have been made.
For us this is a blessing. And I pray our daughter will understand,
and grow and flourish.
Some one loved her before us. Enough to give her away and to give her another chance...
It's only a matter of time now Stacey!
Anna
Wow! What an amazing thought - I'd never thought about that (giving our daughters the choice for as many children as she likes).
Amazing.
Thanks for sharing!!!
I've got goosebumps of excitment for you guys!
Thanks for your comment on my blog re: you jealous of me going to Bali! I'll swap anyday!!!! Can't wait for our referral and to be in your boots!!! But, yes, I'll be happy to go to Bali in the meantime!
Lee-Anne
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